How to Help a Friend Going Through Postpartum Depression

The other day, someone asked me how I dealt with my postpartum depression and asked for advice on helping a friend going through post partum depression. This can be frustrating to see a friend go through. Here was my reply...


1. When I suffered from post partum depression, the best thing anyone did for me was look after my baby so I could either sleep, exercise or hit Starbucks for a decaf and read my favourite magazine. My first born was colicky and I need a break every now and then.


2. I would suggest you ask your friend, "What do you need right now?", "What would you like more than anything right now?" If she answers, "my bathroom to be cleaned" - by all means do it! :)


3. Some other great things were little gifts like herbal teas and bath soaks to pamper myself. I absolutely loved this peppermint foot spray that Body Shop has. It soothed my aching feet. I also loved a pampering day at the Spa.


4. I had friends cook meals for me that were nutritious and hot. I craved a good hot meal. It took a lot to make a meal so this was SO FABULOUS! I had arranged for 5 friends to alternate meals each week for me. I knew from the first pregnancy that I had to be bold and ask for this kind of help. However, the first time, I was too shy and too afraid to ask. As a result, I was lonely, undernourished and depressed. Ask your friend what her favourite meal is and make it! Or if you aren't a good cook, order it!


5. If you're friend is able, take her for a walk with her new baby. Getting outside was THE BEST thing for me! Find a great park or something with paths away from busy traffic. Walk past a playground so your friend can see happy moms and children playing. This was encouraging to me too.


Warning!: Do talk to your doctor before engaging in any exercise routine.



About the Author

Merri Ellen is a former depression sufferer and mother of 2, wife of 1 hubby, owner of 1 cat. She's beaten it (depression, not the cat) and is on a mission to share the research she spent hours compiling to help others be in the know of what depression really is and how to really treat it. Depression isn't a disease - it is a symptom! She invites you to share your stories too.

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